If you find your passion you’re going to have this tremendous energy of sustainable energy, but momentum requires you always do the next thing that keeps the momentum going and the reason you get yourself in a passionate place is so that you change your life and the only Thing that change your life is making a decision. So, while you’re in this passionate state, that’s where you make decisions, you don’t make decisions. Would you like? I don’t know what do you think all right, let’s decide if you make a decision in a state without momentum, if you make a decision from a place where there’s no passion, you are not going to get momentum, it’ll, kill momentum, it’s decided, commit and resolve. Some of you in the past you’ve gotten momentum, you’ve, gotten passionate, you’ve even made a decision, but a decision is the first step decision is like a war. I got to do this or that all right, I’m going to make myself do this, but commitment is when you now after you’ve decided you commit to do this for the long term, whether it’s hard or easy, doesn’t matter you’re doing this. It takes it from this moment and it carries it as a future. Even when things are difficult and the third state is resolved, resolve means it’s done, it’s like it doesn’t. Even if you took actually it’s done inside you, so it’s done out there. Theres no question whatsoever, then, once you decide the only way the commitment and the energy and the momentum continue. Are you taking immediate massive what my friends massive? What right down to your notes? Massive action is the cure-all. Massive action is the cure-all, if you’re having a difficult time with something your relationship is that where you want it to be, your finances are not where you want to be. Your body’s that, where you want to be your business, is not where it wants to be. You need to take massive action, if that doesn’t work, try something else, but those work try. Something else to keep going with massive action and you will find the way because it will give you momentum. If you want to grow a business, I can teach you. A million strategy will change you overnight and if I get you to use the strategy and grow your business, thirty percent, like that you are going to get so excited that your story about your business will change, wrote it you’re like I can rip this open. I’M going to make this thing a hundred percent more profitable. Thats why eighty percent of people I can grow them. Thirty, one hundred thirty percent, because once we get into momentum, people’s story changes and when their story changes. The third and most important thing changes their state. Cuz that’s what really changed the ultimate question, I’m always asking is: how do I help people break through? The question is: what are you breaking through to and absence all of us at some level to feel alive have to always feel like we’re growing or people. Ask me: what does it take to be happy always tell them one word: progress. Progress equals happiness, even if you’re, not where you want to be. Yet if you on the road, if you’re improving, if you’re, making progress, you’re going to love it you’re going to feel alive, on the other hand, it doesn’t matter how successful you are. If you stop growing, you start dying inside now. How does this relate to this session on break? Through all say, it’s really simple. If you know I want to know what it takes to be happy, we have to understand what is our current blueprint of how our life’s supposed to be and what I mean by blueprint. Well, we have a story in our head about life supposed to be some people’s story. If you work hard in school? You become really great you’re, a nice person, you’re a good person and then you grow up and you take care of yourself and you find the ideal man and follow love. You have a white picket fences, you have sweet birth to children and you live happily ever after somebody else’s story. The old story was you work really hard in school, you excel in college. You would work for a big corporation and you move up through the ranks until you’re, the president or chairman of the company, and you become successful, respected throughout life. These are some old stories. Obviously, the stories that we hear today and what people’s lives are supposed to be like a completely diverse. You no longer have these little archetypes, but when our touch still seems to remain Matt Ark type is in order for you to really feel like you’re enough. Many people believe they have to achieve an enormous amount. They made me: do it in different ways that they may do it by building a company and taking a public when they’re, 27 or 25 years old, or you know they find and create a new technology or they become a very special doctor. But we live in a culture in the West that teaches people that you’re not enough. Unless you do something really special and unique and we define special and unique and interesting ways. A school teacher is not special, unique, a mother who stays home with their children day and night sculpting their minds, their bodies, their souls and their future are not special. We live in a world today where we treat teachers like you’re nobody and pay them accordingly. We wonder why our children seem to have challenges of learning and growing or being engaged in school. We spend thousands of dollars on some item like a computer, but what we look at overall we invest in for the teacher and for that person is the personal connection with them is so small. We live in a society where many women look down and say well. You’re, just a housewife, you’re, just a mother, to see some of the pain we have in our society is not because there’s one right or one long approach, but because we try to make everybody fit into some particular approach to life. Here’S what’s going to make you happy or make you unhappy in life, it’s real simple! Lets do a quick test! Yes, you’re! In a situation right now, where you look at your life, I know there’s an area of your life that you probably feel pretty darn good about, even if you’re not happy with your finances. I bet you feel damn good close to your kids or, if you’re not close to your kids and you don’t have any kids, maybe you feel really good about your career if you’re doing not so good at your career, maybe you got a really great body that You’Ve trimmed down or strengthen up or you know you really shake yourself the way you want muscularly or the way you look or if that’s not happening, maybe you feel really special connection with God or really close to your mother or father of your family. Whatever almost everybody has an area of their life, they feel really good about it. They’re honest if they’re fair to themselves, what’s the name of your life, you really feel happy about, so I want you to think about it for a moment truthfully. What’S an area in your life today, but if you wanted to be happy about it, you really could feel proud about it. You could feel like scenario you’re doing darn well in and if you’re really hard on yourself, there’s still an area what’s in the area once you think of it right now, so once you think of that area, whether it’s your body or your finances or your career or Your intimate relationship for your relationship with your kids, your relationship with your Creator, whatever it is once you think about. Why are you happy with that air of your life right now today? Why are you happy with that area of your life right now today, really think about if you’re, in a seminar with that, have you write this down? If you can, you can put me on hold here for a second because I’d like to reveal to you. The formula is for happiness and, if I say, there’s a formula for happiness and here’s what it is you’re going to go, yeah yeah sure and that’s what he says. But if you down the answer – and we can see the formulas real without me – telling you what it is – you get to look at your own life in fat matches you’re going to know this is right, so you could stop this right now, if you want to put Me on hold and just write down: what’s an area of your life, you’re really really happy about you’re really pleased with or you could be if you wanted to focus on it, and why are you happy with that part of your life right now, even if you’re Happy with everything, what’s the air you’re happy with, and why put me out all right now or you’re not going to do that, just think for a moment. Why specifically be filled? Why now, when I ask this, if you turn me back on now, if I ask this of an audience I’ll, have people write this down for a few minutes and I’ll be calling people off they share with the person next to you first, what are you happy about? Why are you happy in that area and be specific after they share our people, stand up on calling a variety people, and I say yeah, I’m telling myself: what are you happy about shall say? Well, honestly, I’m really happy with my body. She does. I never thought I’d say that, but I used to be so unhappy with it and you know I. Finally, I did some things I push myself through and now I exercise regularly and eat. I’M not perfect, but I feel fit. I feel strong until energetic and that’s really I don’t know it just feels good to me now I say everybody, I’m now going to show you what the formula for businesses and it’s real, simple I want to reveal to you see you don’t ever forget it. Whenever you’re happy with the air of your life, it’s because right now your current life experience, I call your LC your life conditions, the conditions of your life, your life conditions in that area, match or equal to your blueprint. Your story, your belief about how life should be in that area, so this woman says to me: I’m really happening in my body, because it’s not perfect her blueprint is. I don’t need to be perfect, but it’s so much better than it was unfit and I’m strong – and I have this energy her mental blueprint says I should be fit strong and energy. I don’t need to be perfect, but I should be that way. Well, in my life, my body matches how I think it should be. I feel good about my life I’ll have somebody else I’ll say you know tell me there you’re happy with some enough to say. Well, I’m really happy with my career. Why? Well, I’m doing better than I even thought I would be. I mean I ahead of the schedule of where I hoped I’d be at this stage, I’m working at this level in this company, and I have these skills in this ability, and it’s even better than I thought well once again. Listen. This person is happy with this area of their life, because their current life conditions in the area called their career are even better than they expect that they would be better than their blueprint better than their belief about how it should be. If it’s really better, you tend to be over the moon, but one woman was saying you know uh, I got ta tell you, I said I’m the happies ever been in my whole life. How come she goes because I have this man in my life and I’m in love with him, and he loves me and I can be myself with him and he we have this incredible intimacy and this passion and we want to be with each other. All the time – and I never get bored with him, what’s your blueprint, you want to be with somebody that you could have total intimacy with somebody who you love and loves you. Those are part of her rules, her beliefs, of how it should be. She said it. You know it needs to be. I never want to be with anybody else. I want to be with him every moment her blueprint about how life should be in the way she lives her relationships even better than she hoped, when it’s better than you hope, you’re going to be totally excited so think about this. Then, what’s an area you’re not happy with, let’s see we can find the formula for unhappiness. Is the formula for happiness, is to be able to meet your expectations or exceed them that we really makes you excited, but to be happy at least meet. It does not be perfect, but if you generally mean what you expect you want from your life in that area feel good life conditions match the blueprint, feel good. So what makes you feel bad or create pain? Stress frustration really easy way to figure it out. After this question, what’s an area of life you’re not happy with? Let me be honest with yourself and even if your life is great, all kinds of ways, I’m sure there’s an area you’d like to improve anybody. Who’S honest if they’re doing great in their career. Very often don’t take care of their body so much if they’re really focused on their body. You know very often they find themselves in the position where they’re not spending enough time with their kids or, if they’re spending time with their kids their intimate relationships. Not doing so well because it’s the nature of human beings to focus on areas they feel comfortable with and strong in and give this time and the areas they don’t feel so stronger they go. I don’t have time for it, but you really saying is: I don’t feel very confident that area. So, what’s an area, your life that you and not as happy with, I mean it’s healthy honestly to look at areas and say I don’t like it. I want more. This whole concept of a breakthrough is about how do I close the gap between where I am right now and where I want to be that’s. What we’re here to do is like here’s. What I want to be here, I am it’s healthy to see. Theres a gap that makes me have this hunger. This drive to grow, to feel alive, to expand as human being. So what’s it is your body? Is it your finances? Is it your career? Is it your spiritual life or lack thereof, ensures the feeling connected in that area? You get your kid’s all right. What’S the area? What’S the area, that’s not where you want it to be and then answer for a moment. Why aren’t you happy with that area of your life right now? Why, specifically, today, are you not happy with that area of your life to stage your time of your life? Again, you can stop this and write it down might be useful for you how’s it going to keep it running, stop it and you’ll turn it right back on I’ll kick into it. Do that now or, if you kept it running, then just I’ll give you what happens. I have people write this down and they don’t like to exercise so much. I don’t like my body or I don’t like my finance. I don’t like my career. I don’t like the person I’m in a relationship with I don’t like myself the way I’m in relationships why they write it all down how people share back and forth. I call on people and the lessons pretty clear. I tell people advance here’s the formula unhappiness I’ll show you are you do anything else when your life conditions, when your life can you sit the way you’re living your life today does not match it. Doesn’T equal your blueprint, your story of how it’s supposed to be and you’re going to have disappointment, frustration or pain? If your life is way different than the way you think it’s supposed to be, you can have enormous pain. It’S a little different. You might feel stressed. Make sense so people stand up, but is it tell me know, what’s here, you’re, not happy with the person said well, you know I’m really not happy with my finance like a why and they say, because I’m doing worse now than I was five years ago, I Made mistakes in the market and at this stage of my life I should have this much money and I don’t have it and I don’t know how to change it. And it’s making me crazy and why are they crazy said? Well, because they don’t have the economic needs met, no, you cannot have your economic needs met and you can still be okay, but when you have an idea, this is what my need is, and I did the wrong thing. My life doesn’t match how I’m supposed to be that’s when people get a little crazy. Do you think about if you grew up taking care of folding, your own clothes, making your own meals going to the store, doing the grocery shopping, cleaning, the bedroom cleaning, the house vacuuming taking out the trash? And you did that for your whole life, then, if you have to do that later on, you don’t feel like. You have economic pain because you love I made, but if you grew up an environment where everything was done for you, you never have to work. And now, suddenly you have to work incredibly hard to just pay enough money to pay your bills and all of a sudden food is building up and you house is dirty and your clothes are folded or nothing matches. You might find yourself really angry and frustrated, because you have a different story about how I supposed to be then how it is someone else will say: well I’ll tell you why? Because I’m in a situation now, where you know I’m 30 pounds, everything I should be should be the key word. There are people, there are people in all cultures who love being big. There are people that walk around and someone else might think they’re massively overweight, but they’re gone. I own is honey and they really truly. They match their blueprint. Big is beautiful because their ideas, beautiful I’m big, that beautiful matches my blueprint, rock and roll. I’M happy as compete. Somebody else can look like a twig and be stressed out saying I hate my body because their blueprint says I should be the skinniest thing on earth and I’m not skinny enough. Am I making sense when your life conditions don’t match your blueprint? Your going to have pain, but here’s when you suffer I’ll ask people who here has been through the dark night of the soul. Who’S been here in a situation where you feel like, like, like life, life, isn’t worth living or we feel like a pain that just will never go away and I’ll people write down. Those experiences like Joaquin, so you’ll begin to understand what the issue is. I’M talking about here, what keen, if you recall, was in a situation where this man felt like there was no reason to live. He couldn’t work, he couldn’t do anything. His life was worthless. Why did he think that? Because he had a blueprint, his blueprint said? I need to be an NBA basketball player, at least a professional basketball player. I need to be able to make money and have this great lifestyle, because that’s what makes me worthwhile as a human being? Thats what makes my family respect me. My mother, my uncle, my aunt’s. I am the successful one in the family and I make the money. I support. Everybody he’s a good man, he didn’t come just to be successful. He took care of his mother, his family. He tried to be an inspiration for people walking Hawkins of the man. It was always going out on his free time and training kids and showing them the pathway to freedom, how they could play basketball and get free like he did and get out of the inner city. So this man was not a selfish man, but he knew this is the way to be worthwhile. This is the way to be able to give to people. This is the way to take care of your family and all of a sudden one night. What happened that way was taken from him. He has a stroke in the other night. His life conditions make it impossible to be who he has to be, or he feels like he’s worthless to get it. We have an identity, we have a story of how we’re supposed to be, and if life somehow gets in the way of that story, we feel pain, but if we feel we have no control all that’s only going to suffering, see it’s one thing to say: my Life doesn’t match my blueprint. I got to lose weight that might stress you out, or my life doesn’t match my blueprint, I’m not in a relationship I got to get in one that might motivate you, even you might not like it, but you’re going to find a way to get away, or My career doesn’t matter, I should be, you could change it, but when you start believing that your life doesn’t match your blueprint and you have no control to change it, you’re helpless. Thats when people suffer and so this week for your breakthrough, it’s a chance for you to start to take a look at your blueprint, anywhere you’re, really having pain. Okay, look if you’re doing great in some area of your life to celebrate, of course, and I’m sure there are many areas you are, but life is really a serious approach. Spurs I means two things in life: make you feel alive growing and giving so what’s really wonderful about this man Joaquin is he was constantly growing, trying to get better trying to be a better team made a better basketball player. Think about it when he didn’t make the team didn’t make the NBA he didn’t give up, he worked even harder. The guy was always striving to become something and he became it and he achieved it and then like took it from him. Isn’T that the common denominator with so many of the people and the stories of this six-part series that you saw these six specials, I mean Frank and Kristen, had a blueprint of what life was supposed to be about we’re supposed to get married to have children and Were going to have our own business and all of a sudden life doesn’t match the blueprint and suddenly there’s depression, because in their case they said, there’s nothing we could do, but they were wrong. They were wrong because they discovered, if Frank discovery. I can make a difference in my wife to cheer, even though I didn’t create this and didn’t ask for this. Chair does not define me. I can become more than I was before. I can have the impact of my wife. I can have children, we had to change his blueprint because we couldn’t change all the conditions of his life. Does that make sense, I couldn’t get him to physically walk again, maybe someday he will, but we can’t count on that. Well, we got to count on. Is that he can be fulfilled, I sing he isn’t helpless. I did that to a series of expiry. He says that violated what he thought he couldn’t do. The same thing was true with almost every one of the people he worked with at some level and in Joaquin’s example. It was also true our King said well, I can’t ever have this quality of life again, because I’m not a professional basketball player and he was locked into that mindset and all of us get locked at times, but to his credit, to assist them steps. We were able to break him out of that. We would get him to see that he isn’t helpless because here’s your choice to watch this now, if you’re suffering, if you’re in pain, your life doesn’t match how you think it should be, and you think you’re helpless to change it now you have only three choices: choice. One blame something and that’s what walking dead. If you recall he blamed his coach, he blames what happened to him and, of course these things were outside his control, but he blamed his coach, a big part of the healing. If you watch this session was bringing his coach in and getting him to see hey, you know what all that anger, all that resentment inside of you are keen, hey, it’s not based on the truth and be like Nelson Mandela said you know, having resentment in your Soul is like drinking poison and hoping that your enemy will die then work that way and when Joaquin was able to break out his breakthrough was a change in perception to realize this coach wasn’t stopping me. I just felt like I lost everything, and so I don’t know how to change it. So I’m looking for something to be mad about someone to blame. So, so I don’t have to blame myself, for I don’t have to feel so helpless because when you’re angry, you don’t feel so helpless. You feel strong for the moment, even though it’s a fake strength when he was able to make that breakthrough, he could stop blaming us. These are three choices. When life doesn’t match how you think it should be blame something an event, someone else or yourself, as we talked about earlier in the series blame games, just destroy you, there’s no progress in you playing for the moment. You feel okay, but nothing changes. What are your real choices? You only have two choices in life. If life doesn’t match your blueprint, you either have to change your life. That is, you got to say you know what my body is on there, I’m gon na go work out. My relationship is in there, I’m gon na change it. You know, I’m not making what I got to make I’m going to retool. I’M gon na get the skill I’m going to go back to school, I’m going to start a business, I’m going to be something you have to do something to change your life or in order for you to be happy. If you can’t change your life you’re going to have to change a blueprint, usually am, I fat requires a little bit of each does that make sense, and if you change your pic change your life and change your blueprint, you can have an extraordinary life and what You witness this man do was once he let go of his anger and his denial once he started to look at things. He began to find by spending time with his family that he was worth while being loved when he played basketball amount. Of course, essen basketball is no longer a part of it and we had to get Joaquin to shift. That and Joaquin are a metaphor for all of us, because all of us are going to have times in our life when what we want or think life should be like, isn’t going to match how life really if those moments, if we blame our life, goes into Pain if we change, we can change our life and that’s our blueprint, but we have to also know when it’s not within our control and that’s how we’re able to make a shift and change what our story is for our life. What our expectations are not by lowering them, but by changing what that model really is helping us make sense to you I’ll. Give you a great example years ago. I do a lot of work with business people, celebrities, people balk lines and walks of life, and I was dealing with a group of people and they knew a very, very powerful celebrity and without to give that person privacy. I won’t tell you too many details. You can’t figure out exactly who it is, but it would be a person who was very successful as a woman who was extremely attracted by cultural standards, a woman who’s had a lot of dear friends a lot of deep respect, so great skill, great ability, extremely talented, quite Attractive, quite wealthy and financial terms and lots of great friends, this would be for most people’s idea, the ultimate blueprint. If your life matches that description, you must have an incredible life, but ironically, this particular individuals, famous as they were, was depressed all the time they have. Seemingly everything, and yet the person was depressed, how do you get depressed when you’re, smart and you’re strong and you’re beautiful, and you got great friends and you’re famous? Well, it’s real simple people said it. I don’t know what it is. Everyone’S tried to help her she’s been on the to counseling. Shes got all these different drugs, nothing’s working, she’s, taking antidepressants and she’s still depressed, which is not uncommon by the way, because if you change the way you feel physically, but you still see your life doesn’t match how you think it should be at some level. And you feel, like you’re, helpless to change it you’re going to be the press, so I said bring her to me. I said I can help her. I know that sounds like I / believe, but I absolutely can help her well. How do you know that toast? Because I already know what the problem is, I know if someone’s depressed it’s, because they feel helpless because their life doesn’t matter. They think it should be. I just didn’t know what her blueprint is, but we’ll find out what it is and will either help or change your life or mop or change your blueprint or bolt long story short and very quickly: okay, the core of it. It’S came to me and she said maybe the first half an hour telling me apologizing saying I know I should be happier. I know it’s silly for me to be depressed. I don’t know why I’m so depressed me I know I should be grateful for what I have and I am grateful. It was all these reasons why she knows she should feel good, but still didn’t. I try to find to explain to her. Listen, I don’t care about that. I care about you. The fact that you’re not happy has nothing to do with what you have or don’t have the fact that you’re not happier that your life doesn’t match the way you could speak. You have some idea of how you think it should be and worse, if you’re, this depressed after all this time, you feel like you can’t do anything. You have no power to change it. You go help us and she looked at me a certain land. I said so: what is that? What did you want your life to be alive? She goes well, it sounds stupid. I Drive out through the main. Well, I don’t know, I just always felt a little girl dream that I would be married. Now has three basically perfect children and they would love me totally and my mom made me love me, and I said okay, so how about working for you so far as well? I think you know this pretty famous person. She said I’m divorced twice. I have no children and now X age and to give you a clue that age would be an age where having a child, their own natural child, at least barring a medical miracle, is not going to happen, so I said well, why don’t you just adopt? No, no, no, no, no, that’s not it. So what I had a big under is never. We talked at one of the earlier sessions about there’s the surface problem and then there’s the deeper desire or need. So I said to her, I said: well what if you couldn’t have the husband, but you could have the kids and she smiled. She said I take that. I said well, why not adopted kid? She goes now. It has to be my own blood children. I kept digging to find out what was behind her blueprint, because your blueprint is just a projection of what you think you need to be happy, but as human beings were notoriously ineffective and knowing that’s going to make a sappy so much, we think we’re going to Make us APPL, you would get there we go. Is this all? There is so many things that we think are going to make us miserable. We can never deal with, we go through it, we can handle it, we’re not good at projecting these things. Don’T grab the studies will show this, so I said to her well what are you hoping to get from these three children? Why do they have to be your blood children and she funny said well, if they’re my blood children, I know to always love me. They’Ll, never leave me what was she looking for unconditional? Well, she had this big boot print that said, white house, picket fence, three children, a perfect husband, you know all these different things, but what was behind that was a need, a need to feel like she could have loved. That would be certain and wouldn’t go away. So I can help her meet that need. So I said to her, I said: well, maybe one reason you don’t have a husband as we every time you look at one you’re trying to figure out. If he’s going to get you those three kids in time and how that’s going to happen and maybe feels a little stressed when you’re looking at in this way, because he can feel what’s going on behind your bed, even if he doesn’t know what the words are And she started laughs because I guess I’ve probably been that way: a good portion, my life and she goes people wonder. You know why I’m so uptight, so you’re uptight, because you were feeling like you’re running out of time, trying to meet some picture. But I said all you really wanted love, I said: don’t have a lot of love annoyed. Tell me about your friends and gradually I got her to start seeing this love that she was trying to get was already here. It didn’t match the picture, maybe we could paint a new picture of what life could really be like and make sure that picture met her deepest needs. Basically, we didn’t watch what keen wanted to be professional basketball partners. He loved basketball, yes, but also because he wanted to be that man who was a leader. He wanted to be a man who was the good man. He wants to be the one who brought energy to people, he wants to be the man. People would look up to he want to be the man who could take care of his family in style with all of the family, not just his daughters and his wife, but other people as well. Underneath it all, he wanted to know that he mattered and through the process that you saw in this show he began to find out that he didn’t need to be angry at the world that, yes, his blueprint was taken from him, but his soul and his ability To be a special human being that could touch other people was not taken from him. The maybe his real gift was his ability to inspire young kids, his ability to get himself to do whatever it took. How do you become a professional basketball player? Unbelievable discipline, unbelievable drive, he started, bringing out to picking up trash and the game started to change. He started out by Mary could go home and take care of his kids and pay his bills. That doesn’t solve everything, but it gives him a way to suddenly regain himself when he SAT around with all of his family, and you saw part of those scenes and if you watch little areas of browsing this week, you’ll see some more scenes from his family. Where you see him begin, you realize they love me whether I’m rich or poor, they love me or in professional basketball player or not. They love me, that’s what he was really after, and he got that and allowed him to. Let go and say I can do other things doesn’t mean he won’t have challenges, we’re all going to have challenges in our life and make nothing mean that at times he won’t what she’s doing more, but he’s no longer stuck he’s broken through, because he now knows. I have control, I can change my life or I can change my blueprint and what I do I can fulfill it. I can start to fill that aliveness. Now here’s the trap. What do you think happens once you fulfill your blueprint regularly, once you figure out how to do what you always dreamed of? You always dream to live a certain way and now you’re living that way, living that way, living that way every day. Well, the human nervous system, human spirit needs to grow so pretty soon, you’ll get bored with that and you’ll come up with a new blueprint. Thats part of the part of life, that’s exciting, see if you and I us in this day forward, are going to be happy. Just remember, we’ve said it takes two things to grow and give a meaningful life comes from growing that sense of progress, and it comes from having life not just be about me, but about we do something that makes me feel connected to other people. Besides myself, that growth that sense of contribution filled a deep spiritual need that we all have. If you are unhappy in your life, you got three choices really to blame. Thats not a choice not going to work. Don’T blame someone else! Don’T blame you that don’t blame yourself just figure out what you’re going to do to change your life? Thats my specialty! If you like my coaching or my team’s coaching, come visit with us, come to an event, come get a coach come to a programmer! Will guide you through it more than just a few minutes like this and we’ll do it directly an environment, it’ll shift you or change your blueprint, you’re going to have to rewire what’s going on inside and that’s what we focus on as well. So I hope this journey has been an interesting one for you. I hope this opened up your eyes to what it takes to go from where you are to where you want to be. It takes changing your emotional pattern to change bringing presents to your life. It takes realizing, you have no problems compared to somebody else and putting your life in perspective. It takes the ability to deal with those extreme stresses that happen in your life, by questioning your limiting beliefs and, again we’d love to coach you and show you how to change those in a permanent way where it happens automatically just like lifting weights. So up until the muscle is always there and you find yourself able to follow through it, takes for you to be able to figure out how to deal with crisis and how to turn it around it takes facing your fear. It takes pushing yourself through what used to stop you. It takes putting yourself in a position where you connect to what’s more important than just yourself what you value than just yourself, and it takes. I think, in this case also the ability to realize that no matter what happens to you you’re more than that moment, you’re more than the story you think you’re supposed to be and that even when you’re not matching what you think you need to be, maybe there’s A reason for that maybe you’re having to find a different part of yourself. Thats going to fulfill you in a much deeper level, sometimes failing to get your goal, gives you your destiny. I can’t tell you how many people I’ve known of the years, who had an idea of what they thought their life was supposed to be like. Can they didn’t achieve it? They got miserable and upset and frustrated and one day an opening happen and they went. Oh, my God, thank God that didn’t happen. I think it’s Garth Brooks in a great song and it’s a song about when he was in high school and he was in love with this girl infatuated with her, and she didn’t even know that he existed, and he prayed to God every day that she would Notice him that she would fall in love with him and then sure enough. She never did. He was so disappointed. His blue print didn’t match his life didn’t match it because she didn’t even know he existed and he felt this suffering. He could do nothing to turn it around. Well. 15 years later he became a guy named Garth Brooks somebody, everybody knew and he could rock. You know stadiums with his energy and his song and his music, and he goes back to be. It is high school reunit. It was his 15-year, even if I remember correctly, I remember the exact year, but all I remember is he said he saw that woman that he was so obsessed by looking forward to seeing her and now I miss Garth Brooks and he met her and after He met her and spend some time with her. He wrote a song called, thank God for unanswered prayers, sometimes not getting your blueprints the best thing to ever happen, because the disappointment drives you to find something more important inside of you or not getting. It makes you look for another aspect of your life, a spiritual aspect of a family aspect, a physical aspect. If you can just trust that life doesn’t happen to you, it happens for you, then you can find in any situation a benefit that can take your life to the next level. I don’t care if you’re, Frank and Kristen, I don’t care. If you’re, you know Mandy and Scott, I don’t care if you’re, Joaquin and Kim every one of us in our life is going to be faced with situations where it feels like. We have total trauma, something that’s been taken from us. The real question is: what are you going to do with it? Some people just live in the story of what they don’t have. Can they have the right to do that? If Frank and Crispin lived in pain and felt bad, we all say they have the right to do it. It’S a difference in what you have the right to do and what you deserve to give yourself. In others, we have the ability to transcend whatever happens to us. Theres something called post-traumatic growth. Sarah do people know about it. Two people go to the same stress: one’s destroyed, the other gross. Whats the difference, the people that grow will not give up. They don’t have any excuses, they find a way to break through whatever it takes and when they do three things happen, number one they realize who they really are and what they’re capable of them realize there’s so much stronger than they thought they were and number two. They deepen all their relationships. You want to know who really cares about to who you love and who loves you go through some tragedy. Go through some hard times all your Facebook friends go away. Your real friends, your real family, shows up for you and you show up for them and it deepens your relationships, and the third thing happens: if you can push yourself through and break through, whatever challenges life gives you it each time you have a breakthrough, you get Stronger and almost like, builds a psychological immunity in you we’re suddenly all of a sudden. Its like stuff happens. You know stuff is going to happen and you’re not scared of it anymore because after you’ve been through a stroke after you’ve been through, you know losing the use of some of your body or senses after you lose a family member, and you break through to that. You get to the other side. It’s like, give me your best shot life. Its almost like there’s this psychological immunity that says I’m ready for whatever life will give me. I don’t want challenges, but if they’re here I know I can handle them. That’S strength of spirit. Is what creates a sense of freedom and joy in life and that strength of spirit basically comes from living, a life where you are constantly a never-ending the new way to improve yourself and others capsule my mission, and if we can serve you again in the future? I hope they’ll check us out. There are three ways you can continue to participate with us. You can come to an event. Come have an experience with us live in a weekend at our unleash the power within or our date with Destiny’s, and you can find it’s very different from just sitting here talking to you quietly sitting in front of your computer screen, it’s a rush control environment. Its like going to the ballpark in having one person sitting there talking to you versus being in the ballpark of the rock and roll concert. You know with 50,000 there’s an energy and a power that come from that. Second, is there’s immersion. Here we talked for an hour, there’re distractions there, its total focus and we go for immersion, we’re literally what we did here over six weeks. Few little conversations all that happens over and over again multiple times a day you get that shift so comes into debt or call up and get a coach. We have people that you can work with and have a free coaching session and make sure it’s really valuable for you, but these are people that can check in with you to help make sure you break through you make the changes you want to make and your Career your finances, your body or your emotions, or whatever area matters to you and finally, lastly, and probably most importantly, every day you got to feed your mind because every day most of us are turning on, you know some form of news. It shows up in our pockets and our blackberries or I’ve. You know iPods or iPhones. I should say it shows up. You know on your computer, constantly it chases up and it rarely does a good idea interrupt you really. What you have to do is pursue the ideas, pursue the experiences they’re going to change your life, and we have a way to do. It calls net time no extra time, a wave where you can keep feeding your mind, the stuff that really matters with the products or services. So if you’re interested in any of those things be sure to click on your interest of an event, you’re interested in having a free coaching session or maybe try one of our audio programs, because the other challenge here is with video got to sit here. Potentially a watch me, but with audio you can do it while you’re working out you can do it while you’re cleaning the house, you can do it while you’re driving in the car. Are you getting to work, we’d love to continue serving you in any way. We can, I know I’ve gone long in this session, but I really want you to think about. How can I give my life the way I want it to be? The way I do it is I figure out what my blueprint is and I update it for what life is. I changed my life to my blueprint and suddenly my life feels full and a lot. Thank you for the time that we spent together here. I really enjoyed our time and I hope that this break does serious. Reminds you to never settle for less than you can be, never settle for less than you can give or you can share. Livestrong live with passion and God bless.