I’m just wondering, what do you say are the important characteristics for an effective manifestor to have. Like, the ability to embody what you would like, (like feel this in your body), to let go of “how, ” and to believe it could and will happen? Simply wondering what you would state, my LoA expert!
We loved this issue because it allows myself to talk about one of the things I really like talking about most, that is the misconceptions about this teaching, the misconceptions we tend to have about what ‘manifesting’ is, what is ‘required’ of us, what actually creates the energetic shifts that will lead to changes within our external experience.
The good news is, this particular whole ‘manifesting’ factor isn’t as tough or mysterious as we tend to think it is.
Can’t Do It Right or Wrong
‘Manifesting’ isn’t a good action. There is no ‘skill’ to it. It is not something one person can be more adept at than another. There aren’t different strategies you have to employ. There are not ways to do it ‘faster’ or more ‘effectively’ compared to another. There aren’t tools or strategies that work better than others.
Because it is not something based on action, on skill, etc… it is not something that can be done ‘right’ or ‘wrong. ’ Since it is not an action, some skills, there is nothing to learn. We are always requesting ‘how’ to do it, but there is no ‘how’ into it.
The way the teaching is often described, it is easy to ge the impression it is some form of action-based process, some thing you weren’t ‘doing’ before, which is why you didn’t have the things you wanted, and today you can ‘use’ the law of attraction to improve things.
It becomes synonymous along with things like saying statements and affirmations, making vision planks and other types of ‘doing, ’ again, creating the impression it is an action-based process. And we get preoccupied with things like whether or not we are saying affirmations ‘correctly, ’ saying them enough, regardless of whether our visualizations have sufficient detail, the right kind of details.
We make general personal growth far too action-oriented in my opinion, and it’s even worse designed for ‘manifesting’ in particular. We get way too put up on tools and techniques. We plow through program right after program about manifesting this thing, or even that thing, that will tend to be very large on specific routines and rituals that have no power within and of themselves.
We try everything under the sun and nothing ‘works’ and are left feeling like we must become doing something ‘wrong, ’ like we have to be missing something, like we must not be ‘good’ at it. And we often turn out feeling worse than we did before we knew regarding all this stuff due to the fact we let yourself hope and get thrilled that things may be different, and talk about a let down.
We have stirred up all sorts of emotional shit that we don’t know how to deal with, that we try to avoid dealing with. And the attachment to the manifestations becomes even more intensive because we find it as the ticket to making it all go back heavy again.
Got a bit away topic there, but back to the main point– you can’t be a ‘good’ or ‘bad’ manifestor in the way your mind is probably thinking. You can’t do it ‘right’ or ‘wrong. ’
If we like to think in these conditions of being ‘good’ on it, I think you will find just two, yes two things which we need to concern yourself. I think there are simply two characteristics of ‘good’ manifestors.
I always like to state words like ‘vibration’ and ‘energy’ are simply fancy words just for feelings so the crucial to being a ‘good’ manifestor’ is maintaining your emotional wellness, prioritizing its farming over simply trying to ‘raise your vibe’ so you can attract that which you don’t have.
As I see it, there are just two things we really need to focus on to feel better and be a happier person, that will also naturally ‘benefit’ the pursuits of our own ego/personality self– do not worry, you still reach have your stuff!
The first thing we need to ‘do’ is consciously choose our belief system because our emotions don’t come out of nowhere– they come from what we believe, how we see ourselves, how we view the world, the narratives the mind is informing about our previous and present conditions, and what it means for the future.
So a ‘good’ manifestor will choose to believe things that feel good, trusting our emotional responses to different beliefs plus perspectives is a way to evaluate their validity. The formula is simple– things that feel good are true and things that feel badly are false.
A few types of what a ‘good’ manifestor would believe:
Everything that happens serves us and is a great opportunity for growth and aligning more deeply with our more desired circumstances by giving us a chance to explore and release beliefs, and emotions, that don’t serve us.
The Universe/God/whatever other term you like is a benevolent force that is always arranging things for the highest good
Having trust and faith every thing works out exactly as it’s supposed to
Our sheer existence– and not anything we do or contribute– makes us worthy and deserving
Our circumstances aren’t accountable for our feelings and we can start feeling better any time we choose
Our past experience has no bearing on what can be done for the future since it was all just energy and we can change that.
The manifestations aren’t the answer to our emotional problems so we shouldn’t feel so attached to getting them
If you believed these sorts of things, how would you feel over all? If you believe these sorts of things, how would you experience yourself? If you believe these kinds of things, how can you feel about past and present circumstances your brain may not like?
If you believed these types of things, you would probably feel pretty good usually, and if your point of attraction is the dominant emotional state, that would bode well for your ‘manifesting. ’
A ‘good’ manifestor is absolutely devoted to dealing with her emotional shit. And the more this is motivated by improving emotional health overall, and not only as a means to an end, yet another ‘tool’ the mind thinks you can use to truly get your ‘stuff’ the ‘better’ a manifestor you will end up.
Why is it so crucial that you deal with your feelings? Because bad feelings feel badly and again, if ‘vibration’ and ‘energy’ are only fancy words for feelings, they will pose a number of issues for the conscious creator.
Remember, manifesting isn’t an action. It’s perhaps not vision boards, affirmations, letters to the Universe asking for your stuff, gratitude lists and so on. Manifesting might be a verb but it’s not an action. Manifesting is about what we have been ‘being. ’ The point of all that stuff is to help transform your ‘being. ’
The mind doesn’t get that and thinks the performing of these various tools is the point– do enough and eventually you’ll see some movement. But that isn’t how it goes with energy work, but I digress.
You have always been ‘creating’ by way of your dominant energetic state– you just didn’t know it. So long as you are living and breathing, you are sending out some sort of energetic ‘signature’ into the world and receiving accordingly.
The reason so many people struggle with changing their circumstances by way of energetic ‘shifting’ is because nothing has changed energetically. All the emotional crap that was dominating their ‘vibe’ is still there. The very energies that contributed to your financial problems, weight gain, bad relationships, familial conflicts, etc… are still going strong.
Everyone is so busy trying to just ‘get happy’ and ‘raise’ their vibe, not paying a lick of attention to the energy they brought to the table. Don’t get me wrong– there is certainly value in trying to adopt more positive perspectives, etc… but this actually won’t be the core of the work for most of us.
These little ‘wisps’ of positive energy we may cultivate here and there don’t stand a chance against these other deeply ingrained energies that have a shit ton of momentum behind them.
When we don’t deal with the bad feelings that are almost certainly making us want what we want, we get stuck ‘manifesting’ from ‘pain-minimizing’ mode which just makes us more focused on the pain, that just amplifies it.
Truly feeling a sense of detachment from the money, the boyfriend or whatever else will forever feel elusive because the mind believes you can’t be happy unless things change. How can you ever feel detached from something, feel at peace with where you are now, when you truly believe all this pain will never go away unless things change?
The only way to be in that detached state, the only way to truly start feeling better now pelo matter what is happening, the only way to enter into that state of trust, faith and surrender is dealing with the feelings, seeing where they are really coming from.
We have to understand the way we feel right now really isn’t about what we have or don’t have. There is something else at play here. We aren’t upset about not having a boyfriend, not having the money, not having the better job, about the struggle with our weight, we are upset because there is a story our mind is telling about these circumstances that hurts like a bitch.
And if we just get that thing, then these bad things we think about ourselves will not be true. If we just get these things, all these other things we worry about happening if we don’t, won’t happen.
If you want to be a ‘good’ manifestor, the type that has all those magical seeming experiences where things happen truly effortlessly, that feel ‘miraculous’ you have to get serious about dealing with your pain. If you want to truly be happy, which is the only thing you actually care about, this is a non-negotiable.
When you get at the root of why you feel the way you feel, and you see it actually has nothing to do with your circumstances, this burning sense of ‘need’ you may feel now for certain things fades away. The ‘need’ transforms into a mere ‘preference’ which are much easier to allow in.
Again, if ‘energy’ and ‘vibration’ are just fancy words for feelings, imagine the type of ‘signature’ you are putting out into the world when it is not weighed down by all the suppressed emotion we have been working so hard to keep stuffed down? Imagine letting go of the bitterness, anger, resentment, fear, anxiety? What do you think that would do for your ‘vibration? ’
Imagine the type of ‘signature’ you are putting out into the world when you pelo longer look to the outside to make yourself happy, when you are no longer waiting on things to change before giving yourself permission to feel better? You dealt with all the pain, and transformed all the beliefs, that freed you from the delusion that getting a new boyfriend, making more money or losing 20 pounds would make any iota of difference in your level of happiness, in how you viewed yourself.
Imagine the type of ‘signature’ you are putting out into the world when you are no longer in a state of resistance to ‘what is’ right now? You accept the moment as it is, let it teach you what it needs to teach you, knowing it is serving you in some way. You release on expectations and specific outcomes, knowing if something didn’t work out the way you wanted it to, doesn’t mean anything went wrong.
If you are willing to go to those icky places inside and deal with all those bad feelings, I promise you, you will be a ‘good’ manifestor, one of the ‘best. ’
Supporting The Two
So, we have seen the crux of ‘successful’ manifesting really only consists of tending to the two things that impact your feeling state, which is your point of attraction– consciously choosing the beliefs that create ‘good’ feelings and dealing with the ‘bad ones.
How we support ourselves in doing that is a very individual thing. Technically we don’t have to ‘do’ anything.
Our belief system is nothing more than choice, and we don’t need anything outside of us to help us choose.
We don’t really need anything outside of us to help us feel our feelings. Again, it kind of boils down to choice– we choose to suppress them or deal with them. We don’t need anything to facilitate crying or any other sort of emotional release.
But most of us probably do need to ‘do’ various things that support our emotional health, that put us in a frame of mind that makes it easier to choose in favor of the beliefs that serve us, that make it easier to maintain a perspective on a situation we don’t like that will serve us.
It’s just important to see these various activities for what they are, to understand the role they play. They are meant as a source of support for our inner transformation, not the source of the inner transformation.
If something makes you feel good, whether it be affirmations, meditating, exercise, journaling or whatever else, then make use of it. If you find a program or workbook that contains exercises and helpful action steps, awesome. Dive in.
Our mind is powerful, and our focus and intention is powerful so when we try to evoke positive energy around a relationship, money or whatever else, it can have value for sure. But we often dilute the power of the various tools and techniques we use for such purposes by not cleaning up the ‘icky’ energy that has tended to dominate around these subjects. We aren’t actually feeling any better, and again, that is the purpose of doing all that stuff.
When I realized I didn’t have to do all that, I was really relieved because I didn’t like doing it. It didn’t take very long before it all felt very forced and tedious.
This isn’t to say I never engage in any of these sorts of tools any longer. Sometimes I feel inspired to do something specific and I go with it, but it tends to be for short periods or sometimes even just an one-off.
The more I shifted from ‘being’ to ‘doing’ in this work, the more easily and quickly things showed up, which was a pleasant surprise.
The more I focused on my well-being for the sake of it, and not just doing everything in the context of ‘manifesting’ and trying to change the outside in some way, the more amazingly the outside changed without much input from me.
The more I focused on just living my life and doing what I could to enjoy the moment and what was already there, the more easily everything flowed.
Something Important to Remember
Switching gears like this– focusing on well-being rather than the ‘stuff’– doesn’t mean abandoning these ‘wants’.
Again, so long as you are breathing and living in this body, you will be ‘manifesting. ’ Stuff can’t help but happen, things can’t help but show up. But we start feeling differently about all these ego wants and pursuits.
Some we may abandon completely because we realize it isn’t what we actually want. But as for the things we continue to want and care about to some degree– they will come, no reason not to.
But how we feel about these things, the value we place on them, the role we see them playing in our life, how we pursue goals– that all changes in a way that will be very beneficial for us. Not only will these things show up more easily, we will enjoy them much more when they do.
So don’t be afraid to shift that focus, don’t be afraid to prioritize your well-being and detach from worldly pursuits. Feeling better will have no downside to your ‘manifesting’, trust me. Feeling attached to something and like you need it to be happy does not make these things more likely to ingere, nor does being detached make it less likely.
All you want is to be happy and feel good– the ‘best’ manifestors understand that and make that the priority.
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