Hi Kelli! Do you have any kind of tips on how to identify less with all the current thoughts that make me insane and simply ‘be’ more, merely exist with what is happening every moment, with out judgment? Thank you for your time and all your understanding!
Anyone who is familiar with my work knows I like to talk about the mind a lot. There are two reasons for this.
A single, this ego/mind part of us is kind of screwy, and causes a lot of issues. Soooo… getting a grip on all of that is going to offer myriad benefits in every aspect of our existence. While I am definitely at least 95% woo, my curiosity about personal development, and energetic transformation, is largely practical in that whenever we have to get up everyday, plus live this human encounter, doing anything we can to make said experience more pleasant seems like a good use of time!
The second reason I like to talk about the mind a lot is because, in terms of the law of attraction, conscious development and all that jazz, your brain, and how it functions, lies at the root of all our energetic discord. All the question, skepticism, self-sabotage, fear, have to control and manipulate, and all that other stuff that gets in the way, is more easily resolved and ‘fixed’ when we understand what’ s leading to it, why we do what we do, and really feel what we feel.
I realized one of the biggest reasons a lot of us struggle on this journey, is a lot of our personal growth function, and much of our focus, merely ‘treats’ the symptoms of this malfunction, and never really addresses where it is all coming from. And if we don’t do that, all of us probably won’t ever feel as if we are making much improvement.
Try as we might, we just can’t seem to break the cycle of self-sabotage, stop letting concern dominate all our choices, or get a real handle on our anxiety. We place so much effort into ‘feeling better’ but the positive feelings never seem to stick.
We feel powerless against changing the deeply ingrained patterns of letting our own circumstances determine our feelings, or not letting our past experience dictate what we think is possible for the future.
Our mind is constantly going. The ideas don’t stop; that inner voice never shuts up. Depending on the chatter in the moment, this particular tendency amounts to feeling anything from annoyance to sheer torture. The good news is our own job really isn’t to ‘stop’ it, it is to change our relationship to this element of ourselves, to relate to the chatter differently.
At this point, this doesn’t mean you can not quiet that part significantly. You surely can. Thoughts that sometimes were getting screamed at you therefore intensely you thought you would go crazy can become simply a whisper.
This particular doesn’t mean you don’t have the opportunity to dramatically, and sometimes totally, change your thinking around certain subjects… you have immense capacity to do so.
But generally, we are going to probably be contending with unwelcome thoughts to some degree. We have lots of deep conditioning that can be activated at any moment and we will not see it coming. Save for the most enlightened beings, you can find all sorts of experiences us people tend to have we will find difficult, that will unleash very unwanted trains of thought.
Our Thoughts Are an Option
Our thoughts are a representation of something we are thinking about a particular situation, a person, or about ourselves. Something is happening right now, or something happened in the past, that is basically a neutral experience that has no inherent meaning.
Our mind observes what’s going on, and starts formulating a narrative, a story about it. It draws conclusions about what this must all mean. It makes all sorts of assumptions about other people’s motives, intentions and thoughts, that on an emotional level, we take to get as good as cold, hard reality.
We bring the past to everything in the present moment. There is a filter set up through which the experiences get examined.
And our a conclusion, our story, our narrative, the contents of that filter will create some sort of emotional ‘counterpart’ to those thoughts. They will either make us feel great, or badly, or perhaps neutral.
The only reason the thought would be troublesome as if it was making us feel badly– if it wasn’t we all wouldn’t care. It wouldn’t be a problem. That will something makes us feel badly is the truly the only real reason anything is actually a problem for us.
Like I said earlier, our real job is to change our own relationship to the thoughts, but this doesn’t mean you can not do anything about them. You aren’t stuck with them.
\ to keep thinking thoughts that will feel badly to you. You can think whatever you want regarding anything. You get to decide the meaning you assign to an experience. You get to decide whether you can try an unwanted situation as this big ‘problem’ you must get into resistance mode against or simply something that is happening.
If you are panicking right now about your money, you get to examine the thoughts triggering that feeling– once again, our feelings don’t emerge from nowhere. They are a product of our belief system, of the thoughts we are thinking, of a perspective we are holding on a situation in this moment.
Why are you worried right now? What do you believe about what is happening now, that which you think will happen?
Perform these beliefs and points of views lend themselves to an power that would allow you to manifest the money or some other solution, or even an energy that would keep it all of the away?
Questioning our ideas is a non-negotiable for dynamic transformation because energy is really a fancy word for emotions, and again, our feelings are stemming from all those stories, those narratives, those people conclusions, those meanings.
This doesn’t mean constantly monitoring every thought you might have or obsessively analyzing them. It simply means we must log off of auto pilot exactly where our mind is just running wild, and we feel like are being dragged along behind it, powerless to do anything. Awareness is a conscious creator’s best friend, the most powerful ‘tool’ in her arsenal.
Once you start questioning the range of thoughts you have, and rejecting their validity, you start emotionally detaching from them. The ideas only feel badly due to the fact we believe they are accurate.
When we don’t believe them anymore, they don’t feel as heavy and intrusive, because they aren’t triggering something on an emotional level as strongly, or in some cases, at all.
They are simply words in our head that individuals notice, that we may occasionally get sucked into, yet more and more of the time, just history noise that doesn’t distract us nearly as much as this used to.
The key here is obviously is making a conscious choice not to believe the chatter. And this is something so incredibly simple, yet something we overcomplicate for an almost comical degree, mainly because the mind has such a hard time implementing the ‘fix. ’
You can’t really talk yourself out of a negative belief. You truly can’t make yourself believe something for which you have little, to perhaps no evidence, in your life. There is no logical, rational argument you can present to this particular part of yourself to believe something instead of another.
This is when trust and faith come in. This is where you are asked to tune into your heart, your emotions and intuition-something that not many people are taught to do from the young age– and acknowledge the premise that how you react to information on that level is a valid means of evaluating what exactly is true and untrue.
You accept the premise this particular part of us is our connection to truth, to that invisible world of spirit, of energy, where everything starts, where all physical manifestation originates from,. You accept the idea the feelings are a guidance approach to sorts, where a good sensation means something must be accurate and a bad feeling indicates something must be false.
And as you start seeing, the majority of the stuff we have been conditioned to think is true about money, human relationships, how the world works, what we are capable, etc… emotions really shitty. So based on our new system of evaluating our thoughts, beliefs and perceptions, what does this indicate about these things? It means these people aren’t true, correct?
And then you start learning about each one of these other perspectives that really feel really good, that resonate deeply on that intuitive degree. And based on this emotional guidance system, what conclusion do we draw using this? That things thing are true, correct?
It truly is that simple but not easy for sure. It essentially boils down to the willingness to make conscious options about what we believe.
This typically won’t be an one-time choice however– it is a single we will be called on to create over and over again. And so long even as we commit to doing that, we will always be moving in the right direction.
You are Not Your Thoughts
This is probably something you have noticed a million times and with great reason– it is absolutely accurate, and absolutely crucial to realize if we are to make any real progress with removing more from our mind gossip and not getting so upset all the time about its material.
We need repetition in order to recondition our minds. All of us can’t dismiss the things we now have heard a million times prior to, that have become nothing more than cliche to us, and have lost all meaning. We do this a lot in this journey and it is understandable but we must become vigilant. To do otherwise is to our detriment.
Which you really are isn’t that part of you thinking everything painful, anxiety-inducing, fearful bullshit. Who you really are is the one observing it.
That part of you is completely untouched by all of that noise, totally untouched by any such thing happening to human ‘you. ’ This part of you are totally dialed into ‘truth, ’ and has an oscillation so clean you could eat off it! This part of us is said to be real consciousness, pure awareness.
The more strongly we consciously connect to this part of yourself, the more freedom we feel from the mind. The more quickly we break free from it, and no longer let that distorted thinking inform our choices, and how we move through the world, how we treat ourselves and exactly how we relate to others.
Essentially connecting to this a part of us requires nothing more than thinking it exists, and consciously feel that connection– this is difficult to verbalize but I am sure a person all know what I mean. We all know that will feeling of dropping deeper within and feeling such as we are passing through all the layers of crap.
But for the average bear, we will need to do things that help tranquil the mind chatter and allow us to ‘feel’ and ‘see’ this part more deeply. We have to get used to observing our thoughts, being with them and consciously choosing how to respond.
Meditation is probably the best tool since it gives us practice observing our thoughts without having judgment and emotional investment decision, and this is something all of us start to be able to do constantly, not just when we are consciously trying to do it while in the real act of meditation.
Allowing yourself more time in quiet without any distraction can also be good even if you aren’t going to officially ‘meditate. ’
Any kind of situation where you would normally distract yourself by looking at your phone, etc… like awaiting an appointment, riding the subway, etc… take that time rather to just observe your thoughts, and practice consciously disengaging from them, questioning them, just letting them be without judgment, without having trying to ‘change’ them or even ‘stop’ them.
Immersing Yourself in the Present
The name of Eckhart Tolle’s traditional book ‘The Power of Now’ says it all. In the present moment is by far the best antidote to incessant brain chatter and the emotional discord it creates because most of our thoughts are typically about the previous and the future. In the ‘now’ there isn’t much considering taking place– you are simply doing whatever you are doing and you are just focused on that.
We are not used to being completely present in the moment so it is a challenge for sure. Most of the time, you might literally forget to do this instead of consciously choose not to, because the conditioning to be lost in our heads is so deep. Yet every time you do it, even though just for a few seconds, you start becoming more deliberate about it.
One more challenge is most of the ‘now’s’ are pretty routine and it’s all too easy to let the mind wander. It’s hard to be fully engaged in things like washing dishes, doing it laundry, waiting in line, cleaning up your kid’s toys, etc…
But when I am, it’s a wonderful feeling. When you start experiencing all those moments when you are free from believed, it’s an amazing feeling. It is like being on temporary furlough from your mind jail!
All of this takes exercise and a real commitment for certain, but it’s worth it. It’s super uncomfortable because we are kind of addicted to thinking, as well as the shitty feelings the thoughts typically produce.
We now have become so identified with the part of us that is doing it thinking that to let it go in a real way feels frightening because it is like we are removing the part of ourselves with which we all most strongly identify to be ‘us. ’ That isn’t true of course but good it is, so it’s disturbing.
Make a point to experiment with this. Try to fully immerse yourself in whatever you are doing in the present, and the variety of sensations you feel, etc…
The mind certainly is not our friend but by no means do we want to treat it such as our enemy. Don’t find it as this thing making you unhappy or constantly thwarting your own growth even though it kind of is usually! It’s just how it is for whatever reason.
Think of it as a child who else doesn’t know any better. It really is fragile and scared and it is just trying to protect alone essentially. It doesn’ big t realize how detrimental the belief system is, how the points of views and changes it is therefore scared of, will in fact get it all the stuff it desires.
What do you think of the post? Something resonate in particular? How do you cope with your mind chatter? Looking forward to your thoughts as always.
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